A Kickass Woman

Confidence, Style & Strength – The Kick-Ass Way.

About Me — Truthful, Strong, and Human

I’m Heidi — a woman who spent years fixing everything for everyone else while quietly falling apart. I grew up in chaos, carried the weight of other people’s expectations, and learned to survive by being the good girl, the peacemaker, the one who held it all together. It took me decades to realize that survival isn’t the same as living.
Today, I’m rebuilding my life with honesty, boundaries, and a voice I refused to use for far too long. I’m not here to pretend I have it all figured out. I’m here to tell the truth — the messy, liberating, deeply human truth — because I know there are women out there sitting in the same boat, wondering if they’re asking for too much or if they’re the problem.
You’re not the problem.
And you’re not alone.
This space is for women healing from dysfunctional upbringings, unhealthy relationships, and the lifelong habit of putting themselves last. It’s for the fixers, the over‑functioners, the ones who love too hard and lose themselves in the process. It’s for the women who are done performing and ready to reclaim their voice, their boundaries, and their worth.
I’m walking this path too — one honest step at a time.
If my story helps you feel seen, understood, or a little less alone, then this work matters.

Photo of Heidi painting a mural while on her journey towards a happier life.

I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.

– MAYA ANGELOU

To help celebrate the new website update, I'm giving one lucky follower a chance to win a $100 Amazon.com eGift Card!

Latest Blog

A Journey Towards a Happier Life

I’m Having a Good Day

It was a productive day and I did lots of gardening.  The weather was nice.  I found this video and I think it portrays how I felt the whole day. View this post on Instagram   A post shared by Baibii (@baibii2022)

read more

Daily Journal — March 13 (Evening)

Today I made a decision that took some convincing… mostly convincing myself. After months of obsessing over fonts, colors, margins, and whether my website header should be 2% bigger or 2% smaller, I finally admitted the truth: I’ve been hiding behind “design work”...

read more

Daily Journal — March 13

Yesterday was a horrible day, the kind that shakes you and forces you to sit with yourself. I won’t go into the details, but I will say this: I knew what to do. I stayed with my truth, I let the storm pass, and I didn’t let anyone else’s judgment define me.Today, I’m...

read more